Fashion Sense
May 24th 2008 01:01
There is no question that self-confidence is half of pulling off a trend, but there’s a fine line between self-promotion and just being a big head. Without a doubt, cutting edge fashion often requires you to put aside any doubts you may have about how you look and strut out of the house with the confidence of a gal who knows she looks a million bucks. But how to get into that frame of mind?
Firstly, make sure you really, truly are comfortable with the fashion you’re attempting to pull off. If short skirts have never, ever played a role in your wardrobe, the leather micro mini you just splurged on is unlikely to be the thing that changes your mind. If you’re going to spend the night worrying about your thighs and pulling at your hem, you’re going to do nothing but draw attention away from your style and towards your discomfort.
Secondly, be sensible. As much as there are trends we love, not all of us have the body shape, or even the right colouring to pull of certain styles and fashions. If you’re likely to get caught up in the fabulousness of the trend to the point you overlook the reality of its wearability when it comes to you personally, take a close, honest friend shopping with you. I have this in my sister. She doesn’t mince words if what I put on just isn’t me, no matter how much I may have tried to convince myself otherwise.
Finally, believe your own hype! If you’ve gone through the above and the fabulous trend is now in your wardrobe, put it to work! If you thought it looked hot in the change room, recreate that confidence in your bedroom while you’re getting ready. As Mr Mandela wisely said, who are you not to be fabulous and gorgeous? If you let your fabulous fashion light shine, you will show other people that they can do the same. So not only are you doing yourself a favour by convincing yourself you look hot and stepping out in total style, you will be showing other less fashion-confident women that they too should be strutting out in style.
That said, there is however a little line that separates the confident from the overly cocky. It’s one thing to know you look great and move with the grace of a confident and well-dressed woman. It is quite another to flaunt your love of your own fashion to the point of making others cross the street when they see you. For example, one of my dear gay friends is very aware of how attractive he is. So much so in fact, that he regularly comes out with statements such as “I couldn’t stop looking at myself today, I’m so hot.” Ahem. We all know we look better some days than others, but when do you start to become a fashion egomaniac as opposed to fashionably confident? I think he illustrates the crossing of the line, and the difference is that this guy has the gall to say what the rest of us only dare to think on a good fashion day. But perhaps that’s the point. If you walk out the door thinking your look great, you are going to project that just by the spring in your step. If you have to tell everyone how fabulous you look, you suddenly move from an effortlessly stylish fashionista to an egocentric fashion follower. Hs follow up statement of “If only I could f*ck myself” made me realise he had not just crossed that line I was trying to find, he had hurtled through it at light speed. Fashion may require confidence, but fashion arrogance is only likely to make you less attractive, and then it doesn’t matter how much you spent on those designer jeans!
Firstly, make sure you really, truly are comfortable with the fashion you’re attempting to pull off. If short skirts have never, ever played a role in your wardrobe, the leather micro mini you just splurged on is unlikely to be the thing that changes your mind. If you’re going to spend the night worrying about your thighs and pulling at your hem, you’re going to do nothing but draw attention away from your style and towards your discomfort.
Secondly, be sensible. As much as there are trends we love, not all of us have the body shape, or even the right colouring to pull of certain styles and fashions. If you’re likely to get caught up in the fabulousness of the trend to the point you overlook the reality of its wearability when it comes to you personally, take a close, honest friend shopping with you. I have this in my sister. She doesn’t mince words if what I put on just isn’t me, no matter how much I may have tried to convince myself otherwise.
Finally, believe your own hype! If you’ve gone through the above and the fabulous trend is now in your wardrobe, put it to work! If you thought it looked hot in the change room, recreate that confidence in your bedroom while you’re getting ready. As Mr Mandela wisely said, who are you not to be fabulous and gorgeous? If you let your fabulous fashion light shine, you will show other people that they can do the same. So not only are you doing yourself a favour by convincing yourself you look hot and stepping out in total style, you will be showing other less fashion-confident women that they too should be strutting out in style.
That said, there is however a little line that separates the confident from the overly cocky. It’s one thing to know you look great and move with the grace of a confident and well-dressed woman. It is quite another to flaunt your love of your own fashion to the point of making others cross the street when they see you. For example, one of my dear gay friends is very aware of how attractive he is. So much so in fact, that he regularly comes out with statements such as “I couldn’t stop looking at myself today, I’m so hot.” Ahem. We all know we look better some days than others, but when do you start to become a fashion egomaniac as opposed to fashionably confident? I think he illustrates the crossing of the line, and the difference is that this guy has the gall to say what the rest of us only dare to think on a good fashion day. But perhaps that’s the point. If you walk out the door thinking your look great, you are going to project that just by the spring in your step. If you have to tell everyone how fabulous you look, you suddenly move from an effortlessly stylish fashionista to an egocentric fashion follower. Hs follow up statement of “If only I could f*ck myself” made me realise he had not just crossed that line I was trying to find, he had hurtled through it at light speed. Fashion may require confidence, but fashion arrogance is only likely to make you less attractive, and then it doesn’t matter how much you spent on those designer jeans!
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